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The car turns into the parking lot, tires strong once again. The dad hurries out to get the children out, his wife making sure their daughter is ready for her big day. As the ballet recital starts, the parents beam at their young daughter who takes center stage. Her big brother holds the camera, documenting this special moment. Her eyes are blinded by the stage lights as she dances her solo. Suddenly, her eyes flash and she lands on the floor. She hears gasps as she realizes that she fell. And during her solo! She takes a deep breath, leans over, and gracefully adds a new dance step to fit into her routine. The audience cheers as she gets back up, her family smiling wide.

Parents. If you are a seed planted in your family, how are you growing? Are you merely surviving every day to provide the basic needs and check off the items on the list? I think that to flourish in parenthood or being a guardian to growing children, one needs to be personally rooted and confident in their values and beliefs. It’s hard to expect your child to be excellent in their studies if your work shows the opposite. No, you’re not perfect, and no one should expect you to be. But as the role models to your kids, they look up to you (whether they admit or not) and often reflect how you live at home. Failure should not be taken as condemnation but rather as room for improvement and growth.

Students. Sometimes teachers and family members can get pressuring, expecting you to be perfect or at your best always. Even if they have the best intentions, it can get tiring to maintain a certain expectation. But remember that when you fail, it is not the end. Because academics are a big part of life but not life itself, failing will not end your life or change your identity. Failure should not be a title you wear, but an obstacle you overcome. If you fail a quiz, test, friendship, expectation, etc. learn from it and try to improve. Yes, it’s easier said that done, but it is not impossible.

Last time we talked about pleasure in pressure, reminding ourselves that sometimes what we need is a shift of perspective, for we can find room for growth and unexpected blessings when we see pressure as a builder of strength and talent. Failure is much like pressure. It is a part of the process that helps us focus on God and trust Him over again, rather than feeling bad for ourselves because we fell short.

If a car needs pressure to become its best to carry weight and reach destinations, a car may also fail in its machine or outer appearance, but it brings room to make it better. My dad often reminds us that, “we may fail but we are not failures.” Our mistakes and weaknesses can indeed become strengths and expose the beauty within each one. Don’t let failure stop you from growing. Find room to flourish as we thrive through this year, together.

“But He answered me, “My grace is always more than enough for you, and My power finds its full expression through your weakness.” So I will celebrate my weaknesses, for when I’m weak I sense more deeply the mighty power of Christ living in me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 (TPT)



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